Surprise - thanks for seeking knowledge on your own- You are the most important thing to know- Know thyself- you may spend years doing it. What are your Feelings. So for reading this far and finding this UNFINISHED page I award you 40 c notes- to collect write the following on scratch paper " nothing more than feelings- 40 cnotes" and give it to mr. Chavez-
psychology
Shame- Embarrassed- mixed feelings
Pain Frustration
Hot- warm- Cold
Anxious- Anticipation-
self-conscious
discomfited disconcerted
Dealing with Death
FEAR False Expectations Appearing Real Knowledge kills fear
discomfit
Care dont care apathy PASSION
Up- Down (ZZ top)
Procrastination Don't FEEL like doing something.
Have to be in the MOOD. (Mental States)
Hearty- Lonely- Love
Attitudes-thought- Beliefs affect and are a part of emotions.
FEELINGS
Along with thoughts and impulses, Buddhist psychology also describes feelings as a natural aspect of heart-mind. Initially we notice that pleasant, neutral, or unpleasant feelings arise with each experience. If we notice them mindfully, without clinging to the pleasant or condemning the unpleasant, we can discover how these basic feelings give rise to a full range of emotions. Some people believe that emotions are dangerous. But the emotions themselves are rarely a problem; it is our lack of awareness of them or the stories that we believe about them that create our suffering. Without awareness, painful feelings can fester into addiction or hatred or degenerate into numbness; eventually we can lose touch not only with what is felt but also with our heart’s essential wisdom. As the twentieth-century Christian mystic Simone Weil noted, "The danger is not that the soul should doubt whether there is any bread, but that, by a lie, it should persuade itself that it is not hungry."
There are many ways we have been taught to fear our emotions, and many misconceptions that trap us in this fear. The trauma, judgment, fear, and shame we encounter in childhood can be terribly constricting. Sometimes we imagine that spiritual quietude is the best answer -- don’t feel too much, don’t get excited or angry or you’ll rock the boat to enlightenment. Spiritual practice gets mixed up with ideas of passivity and self-effacement, a cessation of passionate aliveness.
Even sincere practitioners can mistake a false outer decorum for the peaceful demeanor of inner freedom. We may secretly believe that if we truly allow ourselves to experience our feelings and desires, our self-indulgence will run rampant, or our aggression and indolence will overwhelm us. In thinking this, we confuse our true nature with the feelings of a deficient and small sense of self. For while emotions are indeed powerful forces, it is not fear and repression that will release us from their grip -- awareness is the answer.
We fear the destructive power of our emotions when we haven’t seen them for what they really are. We confuse allowing ourselves to be aware of them with the necessity to act them out. But to include our full selves in our journey we need to understand how we have been entangled by and identified with our emotions. We need to the see the identity of "the body of fear," to see how the hurt and frustration of childhood, the forces of anger, greed, pride, sexual longing, and need have been conditioned in us. Experiencing the full range of these feelings as they come and go in our consciousness, we can begin to ask of each the question, "Is this who I am?" If we can hold our feelings in a spacious and fearless heart, the lonely, broken, spiteful, confused feelings arise in a new way, transformed by our acceptance.
-- Jack Kornfield, After the Ecstasy, The Laundry
Success If emotions manifest thought, thoughts manifest words and words manifest action and reality
By Miguel Angel | Web Published 12.22.2007
Miggie the kid, is back on track not back to crack cause we all know that sh*t makes you feel good, though its really wack. So back the fuck up with you're down with that. I occupy my time on a plan to attack the odds but only get to even, compelled by the strongest entity...who can really beat me? He who laughs last laughs hardest and I am laughing my ass off at doubt like a joker clown. Now don't get me wrong, I've never ever been a cocky dude, I am just a confident dude with a cock feeling so good. I got so many other great things to offer, but you, you don't even bother. So don't bother me, while I work on myself to be the very best that I could ever possibly be. A starving artist so hungry for this and since they aren't giving I'm taking it all home for my future kids to feast. No, not another Robin Hood cause I'll rob him myself in stealth mode, there is no need for harming my health. Against all odds, I am only one, one army, one street platoon, one missile backed by only one special force focused on the world. Little did I know that from a boy to a young man I had it all along on the palms of my hands. The time has come to establish something, make plans and advance onto the next level. Knowing that I gotta be leveled because without chemical balance I inevitably am bound to fall...yeah man shit happens, like I got left behind but I'm still here, success was left up to me. Its mine indeed, if emotions manifest thought, thoughts manifest words and words manifest action and reality.
Loud, Latin and Proud...Don't you know that I'm loco homes? he!
Basic emotions- sad, mad, glad
1.Stay CALM
"The girl cant help it" Hip hop song- girl ((1)) directed by emotions instead of ((5)) thinking
Fears and Phobias
"Sweet Emotions" Aerosmith
Alicia Keys (no one get in the way of what I'm feeling)Everythings gonna be alright
Don't let no one get you down
By War
ooooo...ooooo...ooooo...
ooooo...ooooo...ooooo...
Don't let no one, noooo one get you down...
cuz if they do, if they do
i'll be around...
I want you near, standing here by my side
So my dear wipe those tears from your eyes...
ooooo...ooooo...ooooo
ooooo...ooooo...ooooo
Dont let no one, noooo one get you down...
cuz if they do, if they do
i'll be around...
I want to see, you round me
all the time
I want you to know that i am yours
and you are mines...
Let nobody get you down...(heeeeeey....)
Let nobody get you down...
Let nobody get you down...
Let nobody get you down...
Let nobody get you down...
Let nobody get you down... (you keep me happy all the time)
Let nobody get you down... (you keep me happy happy all the time)
Let nobody get you down... (you you you you you you you you)
Pink Floyd "One Slip"
Combatting ANXIETY 3D approach
"I CAN'T" Do math, I hate science, I can't draw, I hate reading, etc
Do not Dislike what you do not understand. Understand it first then judge. DON"T HATE
Diffuse ANxiety Build interest start with smaller challenges- Chunk Down-
Determine your learning style Stage 1 learning style. You want to know Why!! What's the PURPOSE (GOAL/ Objective) Different angles and perspectives Stage II Like Facts and figures - You like planning- Reflective learning Stage III Experiment Stage 4 Apply knowledge- Use what you know to produce an end product.
Evaluate Emotions
Good - Bad
Sometimes we're sad or angry or depressed. But if rather than fighting against it, like it's wrong and some kind of disorder, you just relax into the emotion and ride it through until it's over, it doesn't have to be a gut-wrenching experience. It's good to experience these extreme emotions: it let's you know you're alive and feeling.
. What can you do about it? How can you apply coping skills to manage that stress better? The first thing you have to do is to be aware when you're stressed early in the process. To be aware of the negative thoughts you're having. "I can't believe he just said that in this sales meeting," for example. And the kinds of feelings that you're having -- anger, frustration, and so forth.
Once you're aware of the thoughts and feelings in a stressful situation, and have in mind the exact facts of the situation, not "he's putting me down," but "he just said I was stupid for saying we should try telemarketing for this new product." Then you need to evaluate your reaction, you need to ask some questions about those thoughts and feelings in the light of those objective facts, so you can decide whether you need to change this situation, or change your reaction, because that's the only two choices you do have in any stressful situation.
The way to decide is to ask four questions: Is this important to me? Are the thoughts and feelings I'm having appropriate? Would anybody get mad if somebody told them they were stupid for suggesting telemarketing? Is the situation modifiable? Can I get him to not tell me I'm stupid for suggesting telemarketing? And lastly, would it be worth it when I consider the needs of the other people and myself, to take that action?
Any 'no' to one of these questions means this is a time when you want to change your reaction. You can do it by self-talk: "Hey! It's not that important" or "Hey! It's not appropriate for me to get angry with him because he's got a good reason for saying it's stupid perhaps." Or maybe, "It's not worth it to take action because it would disrupt the whole thing, or maybe get me in trouble." Any 'no,' you're going to change your reaction. If you can't stop thinking about it, practice some form of meditation. Deep breathing, saying "slow down" every time you breathe out, something of that sort.
But four 'yes'es, four 'yes'es to these questions means you do need to do something. It's important, it's appropriate to be upset, the situation is modifiable, or at least it ought to be if you're not sure, and it would be worth it to get him to quit telling you you're stupid in these sales meetings. That doesn't mean that you're 007 with a license to kill. It means you need to take effective action, and when it's another person's behavior, that's assertion: "Hey Bill, you just said I was stupid for suggesting telemarketing, I need to let you know that that's kind of upsetting. I don't think it's very helpful. Could you tell me why you think it's a problem, rather than accusing me of being stupid? That would be helpful." Or if it were, or if it's a situation, problem solve. These are all damage control strategies.
Now how are you going to remember those four questions when you're really under a lot of stress? Important, appropriate, modifiable, worth it. "I-A-M-WORTH IT." I am worth it. Tell yourself "I am worth it," and that will bring up these four questions for you.
This is all damage control. Something's happened, you need to deal with it. Much more effective in the long run is damage prevention. This is communication skills, interpersonal relationship skills, speaking clearly. You walk into the room: "This room's too cold!" Everybody's on edge. What if you walk into the room and say: "Gosh…I feel cold." What's more likely to get your message heard?
Listening. Be a good listener. Keep your trap shut until the other person's finished, look like you're interested in what they're saying. When they finish, tell them what you've heard them say. Those are all behaviors that anybody can do. The fourth principle of good listening is a little bit harder. Be prepared to be changed by what you hear. If you can do that, you're going to be flexible and even more effective.
Empathy. Try to put yourself in the other guy's shoes to figure out where they're coming from. It may make you feel less stress when they're doing their number.
And lastly, look for opportunities to inject little positives into your relationships with people in everyday life. A compliment. "I really like the way your hair looks today." "Gee, that's a neat tie you've got on." Look for ways to be positive in your relationships. Being a good listener is a positive you can do.
People who've learned these kinds of skills and put them into practice are the same people who've shown decreases in these frustration, anger, depression levels, and blood pressure, and blood pressure reactions to stress. It's possible to learn to use these skills. And if you do, there's good reason to think you'll be happier and healthier.
Smart men
those Toltecs
for they know
how to maintain
a dialogue
with their heart.
Toltec poem circa 500 B.C.
The Principles: Happiness and Integrity in Love, Health, Parenting, and Work (book)
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